How to Overcome the Pain Brought by a Toxic Relationship

You’ve finally done it and left your toxic relationship behind. But what about getting over it? The breaking of any romantic relationship – particularly a toxic relationship – can leave an unbearable pain on both parties. However, getting over with that pain is actually easier than you think. Here, we’ve rounded up some tips on how you can overcome the pain and be a better version of yourself.


  1. Rebuild Your Self-Esteem

It may seem ridiculous to some, but take time to tell yourself that you’re beautiful, smart and worthy of having a good life and relationship. Say it out loud or in your mind, in the car, shower or wherever you feel comfortable. If necessary, come up with affirmation that you can repeat to yourself on a daily basis.

Reaffirming your self-esteem can be difficult, especially after being in a toxic relationship, but it’s essential to remind you your worth as a person.

  1. Get a Support System

Whether or not your family and friends serve as a good support system, you can create support for yourself. A study conducted by a group of health experts in Singapore showed that having a hobby, exercising and meditating can help you cope up with the pain you’re feeling right now. Just make sure that you take part in an activity that interests you. Whether its aerobics, swimming, yoga or meditation – whatever activity appeals to you most is the one you should be doing.


  1. Meet New People

Your best friends might be a good support system during this time, but it is often through meeting new acquaintances that you get to rediscover yourself and move past the pain. Putting yourself out there and making new friends opens new doors and shuts out the pain involved in your negative memories. You might even find a person that offers a fresh perspective on your situation that could help you get over some of the residual pain.

  1. Learn to Ask for Help

Contrary to what you may believe, asking for help during this time is okay – and no, it won’t make you look weak. Asking for help will make you stronger and enable you to counter the lingering pain. Those who truly care for you won’t dismiss or judge you for asking help. Instead, they’ll be cheering for you every step you take to overcome the pain your past relationship caused you.

Although overcoming the pain of a toxic relationship might seem like a battle that you can’t win, believing in yourself and investing in a good support system will surely help you minimize the pain, and eventually leave all of it behind.